I’ve found that a peaceful life is a lot about patience. In the past I’ve always had that natural sense of wanting things right now, or even getting that feeling of wanting something so much that you feel like you want it yesterday! Not all the time, but usually what an absence of patience brings is discomfort to my life. This is usually coupled with a knee-jerk reaction to a situation, where had I employed a little patience, a much more resourceful and productive decision – and therefore outcome – would’ve come about.
Before I learnt the power of patience (and don’t get me wrong here, I’m human, I still get impatient, I’ve just got better at employing patience more and more in my life) I would tend to live in a state of continually wanting things or experiences I didn’t have. My life would be completely focused on what was to come and because I wanted that thing now, there would be a feeling of discord within me until I achieved that thing. In this instant, peace would be lost and I would spend my time running around trying to get whatever my latest desire was. As a result, I took a lot of actions and achieved what I set out to achieve. So in some ways, it was successful.
The question I ask myself looking back, is this – How much more enjoyable and peaceful would my life have been, had I just employed a little patience, and from there gone about the necessary actions to achieve or gain whatever it was I was ‘chasing’ at the time? My answer is – I would’ve had a lot more enjoyment and much more peace of mind, and I know I would’ve made some wiser decisions along the way, which I believe would’ve brought about a better, and more likely, faster result. “So, I’ve learnt to be patient with life.”
Although patience is great for peace of mind, action is needed to get a person from where they are to where they want to be. Generally I would say, the bigger the goal the longer the time and the more personal investment it takes to achieve. The key is to take the necessary actions, and then have patience in seeing the results emerge from these actions. A quote from Robert Louis Stevenson captures the essence of this well:
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.”
A philosophy I’ve come up with to remind myself of the reason for the time something is taking to achieve, if I feel my patience waning, is this –
“For me to achieve this goal, or fulfil this want or desire I have not yet become the person I need to be to have it yet. This is a great achievement I’m achieving and it will take time to become the person required to achieve it. I’m in the process of becoming this person by the actions I’m taking and when the time is right I will get to where I want to be…… and here’s the insurance policy – “If that’s where I’m supposed to be.”
Bruce Lee sums this up brilliantly:
“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
Life can change at any given moment and therefore our experience and perspective of it can change along with this, so what we once envisioned as our goal may change slightly, or even greatly, depending on how we change from our experience of life.
All in all, whatever destination you’re travelling towards, just remember: if it’s worth achieving, then it’s worth achieving well.
How would it feel to you to employ a little patience along your road to achievement at university and in life beyond this? If you’re interested to see how my coaching could help you do this, and achieve your goals then contact me now.