“Eventually over time we all become our own doppelgangers. These completely different people who just happen to look like us.”
Ted Mosby (How I met your mother)
There was a time that seems so far away from the person I am today that it almost feels like it wasn’t me. This is deep, but it feels like I’ve been given a second life to live how I was supposed to have spent the first one.
You know that feeling when you find that thing you were born to do because it comes so naturally to you? For example, I had friends who were unquestionably gifted artists, musicians, singers, and some that were such adept salespeople, they could sell a rickety old barn door to a millionaire.
I, on the other hand, could never find my natural skill. I played guitar in a band for many years. It was basically my life, and I absolutely loved every minute of it. Yet, I wasn’t naturally good at it. I had to work really hard to get to a standard that was good enough to be in a band. This is a virtue in its own right though, as my adventures in the band proved: Hard work will get you places…
No, it wasn’t until much later on that I found my natural talent. The funny thing is, it was always there, hiding in plain sight. And if I was aware of it at times, it never occurred to me that I could make a career from it.
My special talent was people – I love them, I get on with them effortlessly, and I really value having good relationships in my life. But it was a long time after my guitar slinging years that I realised this, when training to become a life coach, and although this was intense, for the first time in my life I’d found something that came naturally to me. It was a light bulb moment, and I realised that this is what it must be like for all those other people when they’re in their groove – It felt great!
I’m writing this post to highlight that I was in my thirties before discovering this. I stumbled upon a couple of other gifts later on too. For example, it turns out I’m a far more naturally gifted singer than I ever was a guitarist, and I can string a word or two together too!
So, if you’re struggling to decide what path to follow, don’t worry. There’s plenty of time and you’ll find your way if you’re determined enough.
An exercise I use when coaching is ‘20 things I love to do’. All you do here is to write a list of all the activities you enjoy. Anything counts. 20 is just a guide. Keep going until you completely run out of ideas, and then read back over your list and see what comes up for you.
One important thing to point out here is to be open to following what you love doing rather than what you perceive others may think is best for you. Trust me on this.
If you feel you need some help in finding what it is you’re best placed to do in life, then contact me for a free and friendly chat.